One of the top questions I ask all of my couples is whether they want to do a first look, or if they prefer to follow tradition and see each other for the first time when she is walking down the aisle. Most choose to follow the new trend and not the tradition...or should I say superstition? Yes, you heard that right. The number one superstition revolving around weddings and the wedding day, is that it is bad luck for the groom to see the bride before the ceremony! Ever wondered where it originated?
Here is a little fun fact for you... Historically, a groom did not see his bride before the ceremony because he had never met her! This was during the time period when arranged marriages were very common, up until the 18th century. These marriages were business deals, and the groom could opt out if he wanted– even if it was because he thought she wasn't pretty. So to prevent this from happening, it was decided that a groom could not see the bride before the ceremony. This is also one of the reasons the veil exists, so the groom wouldn't see the brides face until (the last possible moment) after the vows were said and the deal was sealed!
So unless you've never met your groom before, then you have already broke that tradition and should do a first look! All joking aside, let's dive into the all things 'First Look.'
What exactly is a first look? A first look defined by Wedding Central is: a moment staged and set up by a wedding photographer for the bride and groom to see each other before the ceremony. Normally, bride and groom would agree with their wedding photographer on site away from family and friends to give them privacy and to make that moment just for them.
If you are still on the fence on which route to go, here are some of the biggest pros and cons for both options to help you decide whether a first look is for you!
- It calms nerves. Many people, even those with Type A personalities tend to get nervous before the ceremony. Who better to calm your nerves than the one going through it with you? You are able to take a moment together to breathe without hundreds of eyes on you. Adding to that, some couples can't block out all the eyes, and it results in an involuntary reaction of keeping your emotions in check– no crying by either of you!
- Your makeup and hair will be fresh and amazing!
- You have more time for photos before the ceremony, and don't have to take so many after. This is great when you are ready to join your guests and get the mingling and festivities going. You guests will only have to wait 15-30 minutes for you to join them and start the reception, as opposed to a full cocktail hour.
- The photos are epic. There are so many different and unique ways to do the first look couple that with the emotion of seeing each other for the first time, it equals unmatched photos with raw emotion!
- You can sleep in! Depending on your ceremony time, you may not have to be ready for photos until early afternoon. Which means you won't have to be at the salon bright and early!
- You can have more time to get ready and relax before the ceremony. Eat a little lunch, drink a little bubbly, and just laugh with your girlfriends.
- Your dress could get dirty. If you want to do a first look outside, you run the risk of getting your pretty white dress dirty before you walk down the aisle.
- Your guests get to be apart of the big reveal. It is a very special moment the guests are able to have with the bride and groom when they are able to witness the reactions of seeing each other for the first time.
- You'll be posing as husband and wife. How special is it to have your first pictures together when you are truly married?!
- You may lose ideal picture light. Depending on what time of day your ceremony is (and what season), you may not have the best light to capture your intimate photos.
FIRST LOOKS TO NOT SKIP
- A first look with your Daddy. These are some of the sweetest moments I have ever witnessed, tears shed by all! You are his little girl, and he deserves to get a private moment with you before all the commotion of the day happens and he gives you to another man to take care of you for the rest of your life. Wow, that's deep huh? GIVE THE MAN A FIRST LOOK. He did love your first!
- A first look with you bridesmaids. This doesn't mean you have to get ready all by your self! When it's time for you to slip into your gown, have them wait outside for the big reveal. Let it just be you, your mom and your maid of honor to have this moment together where they put you in your dress and shoes. When you are completely ready, you can have this special moment with all of your bridesmaids when they see you for the first time as well! Those photos are worth capturing!
Neither choice is wrong, it just depends on what you feel is right for you. Whatever you decide, the moment will be special and absolutely perfect!